I (24F) currently live with my mom (50F), my sister (20F), and my brother (15M). I also have a toddler, and we’re staying here temporarily while my husband (28M) is in another state applying for jobs.
Last week, my daughter and I went to visit my husband. One night, we got a hotel so we could have a night to ourselves, and my family watched our toddler.
The next morning, my mom told me my daughter had a blowout in her pack n play but said not to worry because they cleaned it. I didn’t think much of it after that. We spent the rest of the week together as a family with no issues. ( my mom, and siblings were back at home)
Fast forward to tonight—we got home late, and I was getting my toddler ready for bed. My mom casually mentioned that the mat was still messy and that they had just been putting blankets down for her to sleep on.
That immediately made me uneasy, so I went to check in my daughters room. There were thick blankets laid down, but when I tried to pull them up, they were stuck. Underneath, the bottom of the pack n play was covered in dried feces, and the blankets were basically stuck to it.
I felt sick. My toddler had been sleeping on that when she was watched that one night A WEEK AGO.
I started crying and just held my daughter because I didn’t even know how to react in that moment. It was already almost midnight, so I didn’t have time to deep clean everything. I ended up just putting her in my bed.
After that, I went upstairs to talk to my mom. She said she thought it was just the mat that was dirty and that my siblings were the ones who handled putting the blankets down. She also said maybe they didn’t see it or thought they cleaned it all.
Then she told me I shouldn’t have come to talk to her because I was just tired and emotional.
Now I’m wondering if I overreacted by getting upset and confronting her, especially since she says it might’ve just been a misunderstanding.
AITAH?
I think the confusion is the timeline, so I’ll clarify. I drove to my husband’s state first. We stayed one night at a hotel so we could have a night to ourselves while my mom and siblings watched my toddler back at their home. The next day, my mom brought my daughter to meet us, and we all spent the week together in the state my husband is currently living in. My mom and siblings were not with us during that week—they stayed at home. Then at the end of the trip, my daughter and I drove back home. When I got back, my mom mentioned the pack n play had still been “messy” and that they put blankets down on it for sleep/nap after the blow out happened a week ago. That’s when I realized it hadn’t actually been properly cleaned and dried out the whole time I was gone. So it wasn’t just one night of use—it was left in that condition not cleaned or touched the whole week we were gone.
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