So today I spent most of the day at home with my boyfriend. In the morning we stayed in bed together for a few hours watching TV and had breakfast.
After that I decided to deep clean the kitchen. This wasn’t just a quick tidy, I cleaned inside the washing machine compartments, cleaned parts of the dryer, organised drawers, wiped down walls, etc. It took me about 5 hours with just a short break in between. I’m also on my period, so I was already low energy.
During that time my boyfriend stayed in bed as he had a long week at work and wanted to relax. At one point he asked if I wanted to go on a walk, but I said no because I was in the middle of deep cleaning and didn’t want to leave it half done.. plus I was tired.
After I finished he made dinner and then we spent the evening together watching about 4 episodes of a show.
Later on he told me I had ‘wasted the day on social media and smoking’ which honestly really annoyed me because I felt like I’d been productive for hours and he literally saw me cleaning?? I spent some time on my phone in the morning and a short 20 min break smoking whilst scrolling my phone.
When I got upset and listed everything I’d done, he said he meant that I ‘didn’t manage my time properly’ because I couldn’t go on the walk earlier.
What also confused me is after that comment I went downstairs and was mid task. he then texts me asking me to bring his laptop upstairs, then asked me if I wanted to game with him (while I was in the middle of fixing the washing machine). I then got snappy and I said no because I was busy, he then said he was just going to sleep.
I feel like I did a lot today AND still spent time with him so his comment felt unfair and dismissive. But now I’m wondering if I overreacted or if I should’ve managed my time differently so I could’ve gone on the walk too.
AITA for getting annoyed and snappy at him afterwards?
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